Overcome Your Jealousy Before It Becomes Destructive

´╗┐Overcome Your Jealousy Before It Becomes Destructive

If you really want to learn how to overcome your jealousy feelings then there are some things you need to keep in mind. If there is jealousy within your relationship then you need to find a way to deal with it in a healthy way or it will destroy your relationship.

Jealousy can be very destructive to you, to your mate, and to the whole relationship. Sometimes jealousy can result from a simple misunderstanding and then lack of communication because someone’s feelings are hurt. If the hurt feelings are bad enough that person may choose to retaliate and create bigger problems whether it is called for or not. It usually isn’t.

There are some things you can do, and not do, that will help you overcome your jealousy feelings.

Learn to be more secure in who you are. Jealousy stems from insecurity in yourself. If you can manage to develop more confidence in yourself and your abilities and accomplishments then you will find you have no need to be jealous of anyone. In fact, they may get jealous of you.

Increased confidence means a better attitude and a better attitude means a happier you. When you are happy then your relationships will be calmer and more secure in themselves. If you keep hounding your mate about where they are and what they are doing they will continue to be untrusting and eventually try to hide things from you when they really shouldn’t have to. You will essentially be pushing them away. Why? Because of your insecurity and jealousy.

Positivity and confidence will ensure your mate that they can trust you and feel secure in the relationship. They will feel that they are loved and reciprocate those feelings so you feel the same way, too. Everyone wants to be loved and to love someone in return. If there is jealousy in the relationship you will only succeed in driving them away. Possibly into someone else’s arms, you don’t want that now do you.

Do not ever try to control anyone in a relationship. If you see yourself going down this path or someone tells you you are headed in the wrong direction, stop yourself immediately! You do not have the right to tell anyone when and where they can go or who they can hang around with. No one deserves to be hounded like that. They need to ba able to live their life and be as independent as possible even in a relationship. If your jealous feelings prevent you from contributing to a healthy relationship then you need to rethink your position and maybe get some counseling.

Jealousy is an irrational fear of the unknown. You need to take a step back and think things through. Where do these feelings really come from? If you explore how you are feeling you will realize that these feelings come from inside you and not from your mate or partner. Learn to deal with your feelings of fear and insecurity and you will learn how to overcome your jealousy.